The rules

There has got to be common ground. I have started this blog to give people a place to tell their stories...positive stories . Too often we are mired down in the hows and whys, causes and cures. It is easy to forget that we are talking about people. One of the misconceptions that I have run into is that because I have children with disabilities-I am not allowed to have joy-nor are my children allowed to be joyful. Some of the comments I have received after relaying a funny story or anecdote...well you would think I had been kicking kittens.
So here are the rules. Anyone can submit a story,OR just a couple of sentences,OR a list of five great things either about their children or themselves. It must be positive, There will be no discusion of causes, cures, treatments, etc. There are more than enough places for that. Mean people will be deleted. If you are interested in taking part in this adventure please submit your story to please no pictures or video-lets keep it simple.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

From Tania, U.K.-she has a very good and informative site at
and a blog spot at

There are so many challenges associated with raising two sons with Asperger's that it's good to be able to consider what's actually good about them. Here goes:
1. They are unique: Of course all children are unique, but let's face it, ours are MORE unique than most with their quirky ways and their incredible knack of saying things that make you think more deeply about something than you would have.
2. They give us endless hours of fun: When they've gone to bed my husband and I laugh ourselves silly about the things they do. Like eating the dog's kibble in revenge for having their sandwich snatched from them; talking to themselves while they're in the bathroom so loudly you think they're on the phone to someone; taking the dog onto the trampoline to "play" with him (ok, this is not so funny for the dog).
3. They are honest. Brutally honest, expecially when it comes to your aging, putting on weight, or whether your bum looks big in this (it does).
4. Their successes are doubly heart-warming because they face so many challenges just doing regular things.
5. They are interesting and intelligent: I would far rather have two clever boys with ASD than two 'normal' children who bored the life out of me. Who wants a kid that blends in anyway?


KWombles said...

Absolutely! :-)

I've got my littlest, who is socially the sharpest, to know what the safe answer is, but she says it with such a big grin that you and she both know it isn't the right answer!

No, Mama, you're soft and cuddly!

Well, alright, that is true, but the other two just go, you're fat, Mama.

angela said...

Thanks Tania, it warms my heart to know that other parents enjoy their children's unique outlook. (lmao! I have heard 'mom you need exersize!' way to many times, and it still makes me grin.
Hugs and laughter,